Giving yourself a goal of writing everyday is hard. Just after you write something and feel safe, the next day comes around and you have to write again. I don’t have the luxury of my days on the Subway being captive and having to write something… so… parenting.
Aveline is now 3 and a half years old. She’s starting to be a person. She talks, she has things she likes, she laughs at things and loves Daniel Tiger. In my 3 and half years of knowing her, and the last 18 months of her being a bit more of a person… I notice that every change and step in life requires about 6 weeks of adjustment (not coincidentally, that is the amount of time it takes to form a habit) So whenever she goes from a bobo to no bobo, from diapers to underpants or from one class room to another… there is 6 weeks of what the fuck is going on?
1 week of bewilderment
1 week of we have to do something
1 week of lets find out what to do
1 week of implementation of what to do
2 week so working thru our plan and acceptance
So Aveline moved up a grade in pre-school about 3-4 weeks ago and Lisa and I went through the usual stages? Why is Aveline being such a dick? If Aveline stays like this we’re going to kill her. Ok, we have to do something. Lets read, lets ask friends…. Ok.. lets watch a YouTube video of Super Nanny…. And boom… there is our plan… a chill out bench… a star chart for good behavior and we’ve turned the corner… same thing every time and we forget everytime….
So the next change will be a bed for Aveline (shes still in a crib… makes life easy) and it will be six weeks of change and we’ll have to remember our steps…